“If you have been Brutally broken but still have the courage to be gentle to other living being, then you are a badass with a heart of an angel.”Keanu Reeves
Is a new year, new beginning for most of us. We tend to set some goal for the new year. A good goal I supposed, and we learn some lesson for the past year. 2018 has been mix of a good and bad for me. But, of course I learned something from those year and I put it as a lesson for me to becoming a better person in the year of 2019 and another next year come along :). Who doesn’t want to be a better person though?
Here are some few lesson that I learned to become a better person, and I hope is help you too 🙂
1.ALWAYS CHOOSE LIFE
I learn the hard way about life, as you probably know on my previous blog who I am. As an orphanage kids is pretty hard for me to understand about life, but one day I was watching some news on the TV that show a baby was thrown on the garbage by their parents and pronounce dead. That’s time I told my self that I am glad I still alive even though a little bit harder but I am grateful for it and choose to life on it. No matter what the circumstance I will face, I keep going with it. Life took me down a path I didn’t want to be on, didn’t plan to be on. Yet once there, I learned the secret of life just that: to choose life. Living is so dear :).
2.LIFE ISN’T FAIR BUT IS STILL GOOD
I know, life isn’t fair. I used to think about it most of the time. But, isn’t everybody has their own way to life and their own matter to settle? From the unfairness that I though it always lesson to learn. I looked people who are successful as my motivation to be a better person, and when I look down to people who are not lucky as mine, I take it as how I was lucky enough to be who I am and what I have. Because, everyone has their own battle. That being said life is good :). And pass it on!
3.DON’T COMPARE YOUR LIFE TO OTHER’S, YOU HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THEIR JOURNEY IS ALL ABOUT
As I said, everyone has their own battle so never compare. It doesn’t matter what has happened to you, it matters what you do with what has happened to you. LIFE is like a poker game. You don’t get to choose the cards you are dealt, but it’s entirely up to you how to play the hand. Choice not chance, determines your destiny. Is up to you to decide what you are worth, how you matter, and how you make meaning in the world. No one else has your gifts_your set of talents, ideas, and interest. You are an original. A MASTER PIECE. Show the world the miracle you were created to be. Fake it till you make it :).
4.WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK OF YOU IS NONE OF YOUR BUSSINESS
I used to get called with funny name since I was kids. From kids with no parents, no family, poor and no manners, I got all of those. And when I grow up and have a job as a nanny some people still called me low job, dirty, or uneducated person. It doesn’t matter what people call you, you decide what you answer to. And it was toughter than I imagine. Life is not a performance, a popularity contest, or a conquest for more power, money, Fake, toys, glory, clothes, awards, title, or degrees. At the end, will any of those matter? We don’t bring anything with us, and we can’t take anything back. One way to stay focus on what truly matter is to create a personal mission statement which you would truly base on your life. I am simply child of God, not the best, not the worst. And it doesn’t matter what anyone thinks of me.
5.MAKE PEACE WITH YOUR PAST SO IT DOESN’T SCREW UP THE PRESENT
Ever have one of those days where everything is fine and then suddenly it isn’t? Nothing on the outside has change, but everything inside you just did. Something you can’t name happened, and suddenly, you find yourself at the bottom of a hole deep inside yourself. It’s hard to figure it out whatever you spiralling down. Something so small sends you back into your own personal darkness, fear, and despair. It happened so fast, you don’t know how to get there. Or sometimes you can feel yourself calling in slow motion but you can’t stop it. What sets it off? It’s different for everybody. It takes work to rewire your though about yourself, but when you do, everything in your life changes for a better. If you don’t do the hard work, you will constantly bump into your past. Rewiring your thoughts won’t get rid of the holes in life, but it can prevent you from falling in them.
6.IF YOU DON’T ASK, YOU DON’T GET IT
The hardest things for me to do is to speak up. I know that’s a little ironic considering I ended up writing a blog:). Why are we reluctant to ask? From shame, pride, guilt, and fear that’s some of the point I supposed. We’re shame to let others know we don’t know something or that we need something. We don’t want to give someone else the power over us Or we don’t want to put anyone out. But if you don’t ask you don’t get it. SO ASK. Sometimes the answer will be yes, sometimes it will be no. If you don’t ask, the answer is always no. You already gave it to yourself.
7.FORGIVE EVERYONE EVERYTHING
Is easier to forgive those who hurt you than those who hurt the people you love. We so often hear the slogan “forgive and forget.” Most people can’t do the latter, and maybe shouldn’t to protect themselves. But, what if instead of forgetting, we retold the story? Instead of telling the saga that more at you as a victim and someone else as a villain, rewrite the script. Instead of justifying and defending your pain, release it for good. Some say forgiveness is a process. That’s true, but it start with decision. Once you decide to change the story, you get your happy ending :).
I think I have enough for this section to write some of few lesson to learn and look forward to be a better person. And I hope is useful for you all. Feel free to leave a comment and I would like to write the second part of this life lesson. See you on my next blog and I am not forgetting also to update about my diy homemade beauty blog too. 🙂 have a good year all.