“YOU ENCOURAGE PEOPLE BY SEEING THE GOOD IN THEM”Nelson Mandela
It was just my usual morning routine that day, I do my daily normal stuff things without forgetting my morning coffee to start my brain power and to lift it up my body movement for the day. I sit down on the dining table, drinking my coffee accompany with Nutella toast while checking my phone at the same time (very bad habit). From checking email to social media and reading some blog post or watching some short video, that’s was I normally did (and I know that I need to stop this habit).
Suddenly, something crosses my mind. I was thinking back about something that happened to me in the past or recently or simply watching or seeing someone that I already know or a stranger. Looking back at sometimes, when things didn’t happen the way we thought or just simply from some of other people behaviour that somehow the things was effects us. Those moments make me questioning about How other people see me? or How people see other people? Do they really see from who am I? From the way they are? Or they just see what they see on the surface level? Those thoughts were keeping bothering me for about a few days until I decided to write it down here. And then, I come acros post about it by Dan Foster at his blog https://michaelhyatt.com/how-do-you-see-people/
At that blog, Dan wrote about the difference between a person that see through people and a person that see into people. There is pretty much different, and I hope I knew it before and try to apply the second choice in my daily life routine. So, I could connect with others more deeply and to truly serve them by understanding the reason behind why they do or act in a certain way. Including myself too, I need to understand my own self first to be able to see people from the way they are. On Dan post, he writes;
When you see into people, you are not looking for what you are going to get out of that interaction, but, instead, how you can bless the person you are engaging. To be a leader that sees into people is not an easy task. It requires courage, self-sacrifice, and the desire to engage people no matter where they are in life.
As a result of what Dan has written, I think most of us do both. Sometimes we see through people and sometimes we see into people. For me, I have to admit I do more seeing through people, a lot more than I like. Especially, during the first time meeting or so. When you see into people, you acknowledge they are more than struggles, their choices, and their behaviour. They are just like you; desiring love, affection, success, encouragement, and a helping hand. Take the time to see into people and build a relationship with them and you will discover a joy and peace that redefines the way you lead your personal life and professional life.
“REAL INTEGRITY IS DOING THE RIGHT THING, KNOWING THAT NOBODY’S GOING TO KNOW WHETHER YOU DID OR NOT”.Oprah Winfrey
Isn’t something wonderful that we could do that? We probably will treat each other the same with no difference. Because as we understand our self we learn to understand about others too and reflect from what ourselves want to. Maybe there will be no war between the country, or no hurting each other, if we could see in that way (my hope).
What do you think about it? and how do you see people in your daily life? is it help you to be the person that you want to be? if you have any thought about this post, please feel free to write comment below. And for myself, I need to learn more to see into people to help me to be a better person and to be more understanding towards others.